walking on custard

I've developed a technique for figuring out when to leap into something. (And when to swerve it.)

Waiting for news is hard. Here's how to make it (a little) better.

Here’s a fun trick to stop listening to that inner voice that holds you back.

There's a difference between self-esteem and self-confidence.

Some reflections on failed dreams and how not to let your dreams flop or fizzle out.

How to get out of a rut easily with a small trick that really helps.

How often have I feared this before? And how many times was the fear \"correct\"?!

Do you find it hard to deal with unanticipated obstacles?

It helps to focus on the grander, deeper purpose of a goal.

Use your natural ebbs and flows to get stuff done.

An injury reminded me that every single day I fail to take care of myself through dozens of poor, tiny decisions.

Many of us find it really hard to prioritise “retreat”. But we should!

Do we have to choose between freedom and security in our work?

Should I study this, or that? Live here, or there? Date this person, or another? Possibilities multiply at a frightening rate.

Are you so determined to spend your time perfectly that you refuse to spend it at all?

Ideas of what to do when you discover anxiety.

That's it, that's the post.

A quick life update.

I never really grew out of childishness.

\"Wherever you go, there you are.\"

I used to get lost trying to find the reason I'm anxious. But the reason why doesn't always matter.

If in doubt, try something else!

The opposite of all advice is also (kinda) true.

A video of a talk I gave in at the Uni of Liverpool.

A post of very low value.

A silly but true story.

Life doesn't have to be an endless parade of shoulds.

Trying not to do something is a trap. If you're stuck, reframe it as a positive action.

Sounds obvious, but easily forgotten.

How to not get trapped in analysis paralysis, for my fellow overthinkers.

Someone interviewed me, and this was the result.

\"Fake it till you make it\" can be intimidating advice. Let's tone it down a bit.

Because I'm human, I want you to be impressed by me.

How to use the exact right amount of effort all the time.

How can I fulfil my dreams if I don't even know what they are?!

Sometimes I feel I've wasted so much time and I'm too old to fix my problems. But is that true?

The past literally doesn't exist.

You have value, I promise.

The brain fears a lack of control. Let's lean into that.

I find it useful to think of my anxiety as coming from three different sources with three different solutions.

If you want to.

It's not a coincidence that my problems keep repeating. It's good.

It's bizarre that this works.

Featuring some nice doodles.

I swear I've solved it this time.

Stop doing something when it becomes joyless.