Exploding Cats & Panic Attacks
13 Mar 2015
Photo by Joshua Sukoff on Unsplash
Things, in general, can rapidly spiral out of control.
In particular, anxiety can go from a tiny feeling of unease to a full-on panic attack very quickly. Even if it doesn’t become panic, a stray scary thought can develop into an obsession that’s very difficult to shake.
After a while, the horrible familiarity of these scary thoughts can be an awful experience on their own. I’ve had thoughts come into my head and immediately tried to batter them down, knowing that if I latch onto them that I won’t get anything done for the rest of the day (at least) as I obsess over whatever they may be.
I’ve found the simplest tactic to prevent anxiety spiralling out of control is this:
Stop viewing anxiety as the enemy.
Immediately, if you’re anything like me, there will be a cacophony of resistant voices in your mind, each frantically pulling apart that idea:
WHAT?! But anxiety IS the enemy! I HATE anxiety!
That’s the stupidest idea I ever heard. Don’t listen to this guy.
How can that help? Surely if we accept anxiety, we’ll just be anxious forever, and that’s BAD.
These voices are yet another strand in the tangled knot of anxiety. They are an immediate distraction, demanding we deal with them rather than address whatever idea we’re considering.
But, I promise, ceasing to resist anxiety is a powerful weapon. Here’s why:
When we resist anxiety, we are telling our subconscious that anxiety is unpleasant. That anxiety is something to fear.
These creates a feedback loop. Fearing anxiety just gives us more to be anxious about. This makes us more anxious. Which gives us more to fear. Which makes us more anxious. Which gives us more to fear…
Viewed via a Highly Scientific Graph, this looks something like this:
On the other hand, if we don’t fear anxiety, the Highly Scientific Graph looks more like this:
Imagine if, when an anxious thought comes into my mind, instead of reacting with more anxiety I reacted with boredom:
“Oh, it’s THAT thought again. How very tedious.”
Or, perhaps, with excitement:
“Yay! Hello, thought-that-I-might-have-an-undetectable-disease, great to see you again!”
If I react in this way, I don’t add extra fear to my initial anxiety.
Reacting like this isn’t easy. It requires going against our instincts: it’s perfectly natural to be anxious about something unpleasant.
But it is possible to react with boredom, enthusiasm, joy, or whatever other emotion we choose. It isn’t inevitable that we must react to anxiety with more anxiety. There is no Law of the Universe which says we must be anxious about anxiety itself.
Once you view it like this, it becomes (sort of) obvious that trying to be less anxious about anxiety may be a solid strategy.
But obvious things aren’t generally obvious except in hindsight, so there’s no need to feel guilty about that!
Of course, this doesn’t magically solve all our problems. There’s no simple cure-all to be free of anxiety forever. BUT this helps us to not make it any worse.
Which leaves us with more resources to get to work on whatever the root of our problems actually IS. Like those tigers that Little Billy keeps accidentally letting loose.
PS This post began life as a strange extended metaphor about a picture of a cat walking away from an explosion. It’s a bit more useful without all of that nonsense, though.
Neil Hughes is the author of Walking on Custard & the Meaning of Life, a comical and useful guide to life with anxiety, and The Shop Before Life, a tale about a magical shop which sells human personality traits.
Along with writing more books, he spends his time on standup comedy, speaking about mental health, computer programming, public speaking and everything from music to video games to languages. He struggles to answer the question "so, what do you do?" and is worried that the honest answer is probably "procrastinate."
He would like it if you said hello.